A very controversial video has recently gone viral on the Internet.
This is not just any video, providing you with a couple chuckles as you watch silly dog tricks or silly skateboarders landing on their doopas or silly (fill in blanks). No, this eight-minute video is going to resonate with a lot of people. In particular, it's going to hit a nerve with parents of teenagers and teenagers themselves.
Can you say "busted?"
In the video, a man who's about 40 or so sits down on a wooden chair in the yard and faces the camera. In his hand is a letter his 15-year-old daughter wrote and posted on her Facebook wall.
It's probably the understatement of the year to say it's not a very nice letter. In it, this teenage girl writes about all of the ways she thinks she's been mistreated by her family.
Her father starts his video by saying he just upgraded his daughter's laptop, adding about $130 in new software. It took six hours. Later the same day, he came across a letter his daughter had posted and thought was safe from watchful parental eyes.
Uh, no.
I'm sure she had no idea, as she spewed out her thoughts on her thought-it-was-private wall, her father would be posting a video the very next day in response to her yukfest of a letter.
What's more, apparently she's not firing on all brain cells because: No. 1) she posted her letter on the very evening of the day she'd asked her father to upgrade her laptop, and No. 2) (and she definitely is in deep No. 2) her father is in information technology. Yes, I said IT.
Oh, no you di'int! Yes, my friends, I did. Or, rather, she did.
As I watched the video, my mouth was open in shock the whole time not because she wrote that nasty little letter -- my children are 23, 21 and 19, and I have read some stuff in my time -- but because her father had the steel cajones to print it out, set up the camera, and read it out loud to the world. We can all identify with being that angry.
Parents of teenagers will certainly recognize their own children in this letter, in which she complains about how she's treated like a slave, has to do everything for everyone, why don't you make your own damn coffee, just wait till you're old and gray and need help, etc., etc.
Parents of teenagers will also completely relate to the father and how disappointed he is in his daughter's behavior. I mean, it's one thing for a teenager to have those thoughts. I'm sure every single teenager around has, at one point or another, felt unjustly persecuted by what chores they are forced (asked) to do around the house.
But, sister, it's called a diary. Some of them even come with keys. Write in that. Lock and hide that. You can feel however you want to. It's even healthy to express those feelings.
However, it's probably not something you want to, um, post on the Internet, where your parents might be able to see it (even if you "block" them), not to mention their friends, your friends, the people they work with, and now me and you.
At least if your diary was hidden under your bed, chances are only your mother and father would find it ... not the general public. And your summer vacation wouldn't be spent having to laying on your bed and counting ceiling tiles because that's all you're allowed to do.
Initially, I was all Norma Rae in support of him posting a response to his daughter's letter so publicly and letting the world know what her punishment is going to be (you can kiss that cell phone goodbye, missy).
But then I started thinking that maybe it wasn't the best way to have handled it. After all, what's on the Internet is on the Internet for all time. He’ll eventually forgive his daughter for writing what she did and she’ll eventually forgive him (wayyyyy down the line, probably), but neither one will ever forget.
And I certainly won’t forget this video or how it ended. (Spoiler alert: he runs out of bullets.)
Everyone, young and old, please think about what you're posting on the Internet -- whether you're a teenager writing angsty letters or a parent responding in kind.
And if you get the urge to do so, buy a diary.
What do you think? Was the father justified in responding to his daughter's Facebook "nastygram" with this video?
jaskie1505
11:58 am on Monday, February 13, 2012
Christine, I agree with you that he should have never posted this. I saw this video last week. He could very easily have dealt with this directly with his daughter and exact the same punishment when it comes to destroying her lap top, etc. Now it is posted for all to see. My youngest son is constantly posting things on facebook which I believe are personal and should stay in the family. I deal with this internally. I still believe certain things are not for public viewing.
Spencer D. Smith
1:35 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012
This guy's response, while shocking, was also inappropriate for a number of reasons. Taking things public is exactly what he is trying to teach his daughter not to do. So what does he do, but do the exact same thing he complained she does, complete with multiple instances of profanity.
Next, he uses a gun to shoot up a laptop. Let that really sink in. Not only was that ridiculous showmanship and nothing more, it was wasteful. Once upon a time, I dealt with a similar scenario. I didn't make a youtube video, but the nice little laptop that I had given her? Gone. We took it together to an actual orphanage I found and she turned it in for the kids to use there.
jaskie1505
1:53 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012
Spencer - great outcome to your situation. At least someone benefitted in the long run. Like the creativity.
Christine Cacciatore
2:19 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012
This video response has really sparked a debate. I have seen it elsewhere on the web and heard it talked about on the radio this morning. For those interested, there is a follow up written interview with the father if you click on the video. It gives you the option to click on a link so that you can read it. Thanks for commenting!
Olddeegee
4:20 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012
Second Amendment parenting. Great way to teach your children to react to a situation.