Boarding the plane in London at the tender age of 23 and taking my seat in the business class (one of the perks provided as a part of the relocation package attached to my husband’s new job), I remember thinking in utter delight that this was the single most exciting thing that had ever happened to me.
No more inner-city teaching in London, no more expensive grocery trips, no more mortgage payments on a tiny 800-square-foot, two-bedroom house and no more ludicrous petrol costs to take into account every month. I couldn’t quite believe my luck!
To my knowledge, the contract to work in America was only for a year, so when my husband leaned in slowly and whispered upon take off, “Actually, it may be more like two,” I thought it was the most romantic thing I had ever heard. I remember a sense of relief spreading throughout my body as I sipped on a glass of bubbly while Heathrow Airport disappeared slowly beneath us.
I never thought twice about leaving everyone and everything behind. I was 23 for goodness' sake. A year or two in a different country with the luxury of experiencing new places and meeting new people was an amazing opportunity, and on top of that it was Chicago. How different could it really be? It wasn’t like I had to start learning another language or to get my head around a completely different culture.
A couple of weeks later, when I walked into an Ace Hardware store and asked where I could find small bins to go under the kitchen work surface, I began to realize how wrong I had been.
It didn’t take long for me to work out that almost everything I said was different. Pavements were sidewalks; jumpers were sweaters; trousers were pants, and pants were underwear. Fringes were referred to as bangs, bonnets and boots were alien speak for hoods and trunks; even milk caused confusion. Semi skimmed meant as much to the Americans as 2 percent meant to me!
Ordering food was another ordeal. Who would have known that chips, crisps and fries could cause so many problems? Courgettes, aubergines and coriander were apparently non-existent, until I discovered Americans called them zucchini, eggplant and cilantro. And trying to find fromage frais yoghurts was an impossible task that I stubbornly refused to give up on for many years.
I simply hadn’t expected life to be so different, never once even considering the possibility that I might not be able to make myself understood. Yet while frustrating at times, this unforeseen feature of my brand new adventure still served to be a million times more exciting than the existence I had left far behind in England.
Every day seemed to provide new challenges in unfamiliar situations and even though I did my best to take it all in stride, what I was least prepared for -- and perhaps ill-equipped to handle -- was the way Americans would treat me.
It took me a little while to realize it, but I was different. My naturally red hair (or titian, as my mother has always liked to call it), my pale skin and my freckles stood out a mile, but more than that was the fact that I sounded so different compared to everyone else.
Everyone commented on it: The lady at the post office, who stamped my letters to England on a daily basis (this was 1998, well before email and texting became commonplace); the woman at Jewel-Osco, who had no idea what I was talking about when I inquired after orange squash and Marmite; our apartment landlord, who stopped by almost daily just to ask me to say certain words so that he could marvel at my pronunciation and tell me I looked just like Princess Diana. (For the record, I look nothing like her but slowly I started to realize that in this country I had something people couldn’t get enough of.)
Admittedly, there were times I felt a little like one of the monkeys at Lincoln Park Zoo, being observed, studied and occasionally even poked. I could see I often confused people, and probably unnerved them, too, but one thing was without question; they liked me. Perhaps I appeared to them like a character from a book or a film. In more recent years, I have been "recognized" several times over as somebody famous (I’m definitely not).
While I couldn’t pinpoint exactly why, for some reason the Americans genuinely seemed interested, almost fascinated, in talking to me. It was a feeling I really enjoyed. Never in my life had I met such a friendly and welcoming group of people and within no time at all, I found myself hoping the next 23 months would go as slowly as possible.
I'd fallen madly, passionately and deeply in love with Chicago -- and later, Plainfield -- and as it turned out, it's become my home. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that 15 years and three children later, I’d still be lucky enough to still live here!
Amanda Poston
9:25 pm on Monday, April 9, 2012
Aw, so moving Lys! And so nicely written! We're glad you're here! ;)
Chelsea
9:40 pm on Monday, April 9, 2012
Keep more posts coming! It's interesting to get your point of view!
Colleen Johnston
9:41 pm on Monday, April 9, 2012
Love it, Lysa! And I'm SO glad you're here! I admit to hanging on your every word... I adore your accent, but you are so much more than that, my dear!
Heather Amin
10:04 pm on Monday, April 9, 2012
Awesome story, but it left me wanting MORE! Continue continue please! I'd buy your book in a NY minute!
Tracey Kirk
11:14 pm on Monday, April 9, 2012
Brilliant....can't wait for the next installment!
Jenny Northrup
12:06 am on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
I am already addicted.....Tell me more!!!! <3
Patrick Guertin
12:25 am on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Totally Hooked, like up to an IV ... OMG Bloody Brilliant!!!
Amanda Turner
10:44 am on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Great job Lysa, loved reading this...we need more.
Faz Rujudawa
11:28 am on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Makes me want to go and live in Chicago, love it when girls cut their 'bangs' ,
Great article xx
Donny Kerabatsos
1:51 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Is this what Patch has become? How sad.
9 comments, all from people who just signed up minutes before posting, and only have one comment ever made.
Right.
Since hardly nobody comments anymore, now patch is just making up comments to make it seem more popular than it is.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Astroturfing
Karen Sorensen
2:47 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Aren't you being just a tad too cynical, Donny? Lysa lives in Plainfield, and she's writing a blog for us, just as a dozen other people do for us. I think there's room on this site for all types of content, including first-person columns. In fact, you're more than welcome to do one yourself and, sure, all of your friends can comment on it.
Tracey Kirk
9:46 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Yes....nine comments from NEW READERS!!! OMG! Imagine that! Maybe we will start to read other things here too....cynical is an understatement. I guess someone didn't learn " if you don't have something nice to say, then....." Keep up the great work Lysa! :)
Penny Kite
3:12 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Bollox! Come back to grimey London Lys, we miss you. xx
Lysa Heaton
4:21 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
If friends are commenting they I'm delighted that they are taking the time to contribute to our community newspaper. I think that's what we are all working towards isn't it, a sense of community?
Alison Saunders
4:50 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
it is great to hear your story about moving to the US, how different to me and my move. in fact, I moved back last summer, it just wasn't for me, I so love being back grimy, expensive, fringe cutting London. But so glad you are happy. Looking forward to your next blog.
Lysa Heaton
6:15 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Alison, so glad you are back and happy :) London held many cons for me but of course held so many positives too. I'm delighted you are reading this from all the way back home! I'll look forward to future comments from you....you might need to remind me of some of the things my 15 yrs have caused me to forget. There is a new Indian take away opened close by here which is absolutely fabulous and something we have always missed so much! Still no fish and chips or mushy peas and definitely no saveloys though! Maybe there is a gap in the market ;)
Tina Blankenship
6:38 pm on Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Great story Lysa! My mother-in-law is from Ondle, England, she has been here for over 75 years and loves it. I have heard many of the same terms from her, although you didn't mention the loo (not sure if I have the right spelling).....lol! :) Looking forward to your next blog.
Agnes Chmura
10:16 am on Thursday, January 17, 2013
Hey Lysa! I love your story:) I also was 23 when I came United States; however, I didn't speak almost any English and for many years I struggled to make it work. I totally understand and feel where you coming from, and I share your love for this city. Besides, who said that you only can love one city?!:) It's not like you in love with two guys:))))) lol Great to hear your story!