Gossip Hurts At Any Age: Mom Talk

How can we teach our kids a life lesson early?

Gossip, like bullying, is a very painful weapon.

As an adult, I’m still getting kicked in the teeth by gossips. As an adult, gossip makes me nauseated. I want to come out swinging, to correct the record. To defend myself.

As an adult, gossip hurts my feelings and still makes me cry sometimes — especially when the nastiness and half-truths come from people who claim they are our friends.

This a lesson to our children that they are not babies just because they get upset by maliciousness. We all get upset at any age. Words can be very hurtful.

There is no wonder why our children suffer so much by hateful words. Kids are still maturing. Their abilities to let things roll off is practically non-existent. How can we teach them to overcome the painful emotions when we, ourselves, continue to struggle with it?

Gossip can be especially potent when it is guised as concern. Half-truths are confusing. Kids have a hard time interpreting reality as it is, let alone when the reality is couched in falsehoods. Heck, we all have a hard time with that.

One of the best lessons we can teach our children is to identify gossip and to not participate in it. If you have questions about what you heard, go straight to the source. Avoid third-party interventions.

We need to teach our children to be direct, to get the story straight. Gossip is repeating third-hand information. It’s wrong. It’s hurtful. It’s damaging.

But that’s just what I heard.

Monica April 28, 2012 at 07:57 PM
@Vanessa, after having read some of your "articles" it is obvious that you are not commenting as a reporter in those either.
Vanessa Holloway April 28, 2012 at 08:28 PM
Monica- I would like to know what articles you are referring too. Yes I had a few that I described experiences (Ex: trip articles, a Whiz Kid article on my own children), but other than that, not sure what your getting at. Please clarify.
Emma M. May 01, 2012 at 09:38 PM
Even if this comment WERE geared to the whole Patch website, you still put it on this article which is extremely offensive to the person who wrote it. This was completely unnecessary and is very offensive. Especially writing that way about a Catholic Church.
Kate A. May 01, 2012 at 09:53 PM
Honestly, I didn't even write this article and I am offended, as a Catholic, this is very offending. I cannot believe you would write something like this on an article intended on stopping gossip and how HURTFUL it is. It is no joking/laughing matter.
Kate A. May 01, 2012 at 09:56 PM
I completely agree. I can't believe some people find this 'amusing'. Especially trying to be funny towards a Catholic Church. Great article. I wish some people could actually appreciate it more.


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